Joan and I became good friends over the years. I help her with her endless computer problems and she serves as my decorating consultant - helping me to make decisions. We share the love of animals - especially our dogs, as well as good food, and shopping!
|We stopped along the way to enjoy the beauty|
|Joan (right) with my mother-in-law at Biltmore Estates|
Joan has undergone several surgeries and has been back and forth from nursing homes to hospitals as medical needs have arisen. She's currently in a local nursing home making some strides, but she is unable to speak, has limited cognitive abilities, and can't move the left side of her body. She continues to make progress so her family is hopeful. Doctors were amazed Joan even survived the aneurysm so the fact that she's even alive is a miracle.
Joan's family has obviously undergone a lot of emotional pain and stress. Joan's husband and three grown children have been by her side nearly 24/7 since October 14th.
The family keeps friends and relatives updated on Joan's progress through Caring Bridge, a free website that helps keep loved ones informed during a significant health challenge.
Yesterday Holly, Joan's oldest child, posted an incredibly powerful post on the site. Her post reads:
I feel like I should let my dad write today's entry but I know he is having a very busy day. Today my parents have been married 42 years. I am starting to cry as I write this because I am sure that last May 3rd they were laughing and reminiscing about their marriage and what fun trips they were going to take. Now they spend their days & nights holding hands and giving each other kisses while they watch the Cardinals on TV or just sit next to each other. I am sure neither would trade the past 42 years for anything but today, they are just thankful to have each other. I have seen my dad love my mom in ways that have taken their marriage to a level that the rest of us cannot and probably will not, ever go. It has been a constant reminder for me that there can never be enough "I love yous" or "thank yous" said in a relationship because you just never know what you might get. So on this day, in honor of my parents, please be extra kind and loving to those in your life you care about. It really is just about the only thing that is important in this life...the people you love.